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We rush to apologize, but the motivation needs to be uncovered. Is the purpose of apologizing to "fix/cleans" our past and/or to "unburden" our guilt on the other to alleviate our own pain, or will apologizing have a healing effect on the victim.

While some victims want a form of acknowledgement or closure, others never want to have any form of contact or reminder from the perpetrator.

A victim was once asked by offenders what they could do to fix or bring healing. She replied:

  1. Never do it again

  2. Educate others to never offend


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